The First Day of the New Year!

Hey there girls.  Today is officially 2017!  What?!  Happy New Year to you all!  Last night was not at all glamorous for us.  My husband, the UPSer, had to work and didn’t get home until after 6pm.  I wasn’t too  happy about that.  I mean, he just worked all peak season, giving them our Saturday’s.  Why take this one from us too?  My husband is salaried as a supervisor.  In a way this is nice, in a way this is NOT nice.  Yesterday, our center was trying to cut costs.  So they told all the unsalaried sups to stay home…so that they could work the salaried sups and not have to pay them extra.  In my core I want to scream.  This screams abuse.  I mean, you’re forcing someone to work their weekend and NOT pay them extra?  Is there something wrong here?  Anyways, enough of that venting.  Back to our unglamorous new years eve.  😉  I text him asking him his ETA (a.k.a. “estimated time of arrival”).  Anyone else use driver speak when texting? lol.  He tells me he is finally on his way and proceeds to ask if I need anything from the store and what I’d like for dinner.  I told him anything I didn’t have to cook!  I’ve been cooking all week long, on double duty…and I am done come the weekend!  No more cooking!!  Thinking he’d bring home pizza or burgers from Five Guys, he comes home loaded down with grocery bags and proceeds to pour me a beer…and start frying up some steak in our iron skillet.  My hard working guy comes home…and cooks for me!!  Thank YOU!  There were no candles lit and our four kids were chowing down with us but it was romantic and sweet of him to want to serve me in this way.  After dinner, he put all four baby bundles of joy in bed for me and lastly, we went to bed!

How about you guys?  Did you go to any parties or lay low like we did, exhausted from the years work?

So how will we start this new year?  It’s always loaded with zest and hope for something better than the previous.  We’re stuck wondering maybe this year will be easier.  In all honestly, it probably won’t…life is hard and each year brings its new trials…but still it’s exciting nonetheless.  Will this be the year my husband gets promoted to manager?  Will this be the year we can actually buy a house?  Will this be the year we pay off all debt?  Will this be the year…?

Hoping you all are well and that your weekends are blessed with rest, and peace and some good quality down time with your UPSer.  Happy New Year to you all!

 

Merry Christmas and Happy NEW year!

Peak is done!!  Somehow, we have made it through all the crazy.  Somehow we are now on the flip side of the late nights, long hours, tired and hungry husbands, lonely date nights with ourselves….it’s over!!  My  husband had to work Christmas Eve.  It was a rainy day, foggy and warm…which led to an intersection crash for one of his drivers.  Poooo.  Some careless person ran a red light and grazed one my husbands driver’s trucks.  He last driver came in by 4:45 (could have been worse and thank goodness it wasn’t!) and he was home to us by 6pm.  Just in time for dinner and presents with my side of the family.  It was dark out, and I heard the rumble of his engine pull up.  The kids and I squealed and ran for the door, so anxious and excited to see him.  We waited anxiously has he turned his engine off and walked up to the door and we ALL ran for hugs.  I was holding back tears.  Just SO thankful to have him home and the realization that we made it through peak hit me hard.  All the crazy emotions of the holidays culminated and welled up inside me, flowing out through my eyes.  No one else cried and perhaps some of my family thought I was maybe just a tad over reacting.  I just can’t say enough HOW MUCH I MISSED HIM!!!  We sat down for dinner and then grabbed a spot on the couch and just enjoyed one another’s company.  His presence is the only gift I really cared about. Forget all the material things…my husband IS my heart.  Amazing how that happens huh?  So ladies…MERRY CHRISTMAS!  Happy New Year!!  I hope you are all enjoying your extra day off and getting good quality time with your UPSer.  Looking forward to a day off for New Years too.  😀  Cheers to us to making it through.  See ya later Peak!!

 

The Wives

Ladies, I can’t tell you enough how much I am blessed when you find my blog and you leave your comments saying how encouraged you are to have found this.  My heart sings.  That is why I am here.  This blog was created for you.  Not my own personal gain, but just to be a place you can maybe find encouragement.  One week out until Christmas is here.  One more week of this crazy.  This week may indeed be the craziest as people ship last minute to get presents under trees.  Hang in there!!  My husband has been working six days straight for the past month.  This is NOT easy and it is wearing on us.  Lets be honest, we never see each other except for brief moments of him scarfing his late night dinner down and then we both pass out in bed.  I wake up when his alarm goes off at 5:15 in the morning. I see him stagger around fishing for his uniform.  He goes downstairs and leaves for work.  Seems like I only see him in the dark! Can you relate??  I have been so tired!!  The kids miss their daddy.  My five year old always asks for daddy to come tuck him in when he gets home, but my sweet five year old never notices daddy’s kisses on his forehead because its so late at night, my little boy is always sleeping.  Sometimes I worry the impact this will have on them.  We all seem to have our own “father hungers”…will this create one in them?  I always keep things simple and tell them their daddy loves them and longs to be with them and as soon as he’s done working he’ll be with them.  I do not vent about UPS in front of them.  I do not complain about my hard wifely work in front of them.  I do not want them feeling the negativity I do.  One thing I DO do is lift that up to God.  “God protect them, mold them, shape them to search after You.”  He is our real father and He too is preparing a place for us.   I know God sees me and hears my complaints and feels my heart pangs and yearnings for my husband to be home.  For some reason he has put me here in this role, as the UPS wife, supporting THIS man, raising this family.  So here I must be.  Waiting.  Trusting.

Yesterday (Saturday) my husband was at work.  I’ve kinda learned to expect he’ll be home late and much later than I’d like him to be.  So it was a nice surprise when he called me telling me he was coming home early and going to take a nap!  What?!  “Did your manager let you off?!”  Wow!!  Home he comes and as he pulls up in to the drive way my one year old squeals with delight, banging on the window..SO EXCITED to see daddy for the first time in a week!!  And my heart sings again.  I treasure these little moments in my heart.  So here it is Sunday morning and I am wide awake at 6:45 because I’m so accustomed to being up early with the kids.  A is still sleeping.  We have this day together!!  I can’t wait to just…be.  Happy weekend, ladies.  I hope for what it’s worth you are all enjoying what time you do have off (because you’ve been working all week too) and that your family times are fulfilling and everything you’ve hoped they would be.  Keep your heads up!  Wash those browns, pack those lunches…maybe sneak in special treats for him in his lunch box.  One more week and YES, they get the day after Christmas OFF!!

 

Just one day

Happy belated Thanksgiving to you ladies!  I didn’t post much because we were busy and I was spending the time enjoy family and the time off A had with us.  We spent that day visiting his parents and just enjoying feasting, eating, being merry, sipping wine and warm drinks and before we knew it the day was over, the sun had set, and we were on our way back home again and he was in prep mode to work the day after Thanksgiving.  I found myself alone again.  Then Saturday came and he had to go in to work AGAIN.  Left at 6am and didn’t return till 13 hours later when it was dark.  All my other friends and family members were enjoying their extra day off and their long weekend with husbands home and families all together.  Me?  Alone, cooking and cleaning just like every other day.  It’s hard to not get jealous!  It’s hard to not be bitter when you see others being together and you’re not.  It’s extra hard when friends and family know you are alone, but don’t give any extra words of thoughtfulness or encouragement.  This is my bitter side.  Welcome. The struggle is SO real.  Thanks UPS for taking so much from our men and leaving our family time for next to nothing.  So here it is Sunday and it’s the first day he hasn’t been at work all day.  This is peak and our center will be working 6 days a week from now till whenever peak slows down something in mid January.  I should be prepared for it right?  I should be used to this life 10  years later.  Nope.  Not sure it will ever be easy or I’ll ever get used to it.

Amidst all that I am Thankful.  Yes I am thankful  he has a job (like so many people will tell you..”at least be thankful he has a job”).  I am thankful for these brief interludes between all the crazy that our family is together and that even when we are apart we love each other and hold each other so dearly in each other’s hearts.  I am thankful that he works hard and as quickly as he can to come home to ME.  I am thankful we are partners in this life.  Thinking of all you ladies this weekend and hope you are hanging in there!  Please tell me how you are coping!

 

Browning Up

How many people do you know who know what that means?  Misloads, peak season, diads, conference calls, 05ing?   Your man wakes up early, scarfs his breakfast down and rushes out the door.  He comes home 12 plus hours later tired and hungry, sometimes overheated, sometimes freezing cold, sometimes damp and wet. Your man is out in the elements.  I want to encourage all us wives this peak season.  Help your men brown up!   They can’t do it without you.  They need our support, our love, and our unwavering dedication to running the home front.  Working wives have it a bit harder.  You will need to make that much more self-disciplined effort to support your man.  Why?  We fell in love with them.  We took vows to love honor and respect.  We now must act out those vows and hold ourselves accountable.  This world of UPS can run more smoothly if we already have the mindset to be servants to them.  Get those uniforms washed and pressed.  Have them hanging and socks accounted for where he can easily find them.  Feed him when he comes home…a warm meal that says, “I love you and I respect the work you are doing for me.”  If we ourselves have the mindset to serve and support first, you will find he automatically respects and will be thankful for you.  Think of it as a crazy cycle.  I know your tired, dear UPS wife.  I know you feel run down too.  I know you’re angry that his hours are atrocious.  I know a lot of times you feel like a single parent and you’re all on your own and that very few friends and family really understand what you are going through.  I know that come the holiday season you feel depressed instead of happy.  You see other families spending cherished time together and somehow you find yourself alone.  I’m here to tell you I understand. I’m in the trenches with you.  So ladies, put your “browns” on.  Brown up with your man.  Make this season different by not letting the fear, anger, depression and loneliness overwhelm your hearts.  Choose to reject those thoughts that are so temptingly awaiting the door to your mind.  Choose joy instead, choose love, choose to think positive amidst the negativity.  Will you brown up with me this season?