Just one day

Happy belated Thanksgiving to you ladies!  I didn’t post much because we were busy and I was spending the time enjoy family and the time off A had with us.  We spent that day visiting his parents and just enjoying feasting, eating, being merry, sipping wine and warm drinks and before we knew it the day was over, the sun had set, and we were on our way back home again and he was in prep mode to work the day after Thanksgiving.  I found myself alone again.  Then Saturday came and he had to go in to work AGAIN.  Left at 6am and didn’t return till 13 hours later when it was dark.  All my other friends and family members were enjoying their extra day off and their long weekend with husbands home and families all together.  Me?  Alone, cooking and cleaning just like every other day.  It’s hard to not get jealous!  It’s hard to not be bitter when you see others being together and you’re not.  It’s extra hard when friends and family know you are alone, but don’t give any extra words of thoughtfulness or encouragement.  This is my bitter side.  Welcome. The struggle is SO real.  Thanks UPS for taking so much from our men and leaving our family time for next to nothing.  So here it is Sunday and it’s the first day he hasn’t been at work all day.  This is peak and our center will be working 6 days a week from now till whenever peak slows down something in mid January.  I should be prepared for it right?  I should be used to this life 10  years later.  Nope.  Not sure it will ever be easy or I’ll ever get used to it.

Amidst all that I am Thankful.  Yes I am thankful  he has a job (like so many people will tell you..”at least be thankful he has a job”).  I am thankful for these brief interludes between all the crazy that our family is together and that even when we are apart we love each other and hold each other so dearly in each other’s hearts.  I am thankful that he works hard and as quickly as he can to come home to ME.  I am thankful we are partners in this life.  Thinking of all you ladies this weekend and hope you are hanging in there!  Please tell me how you are coping!

 

4 comments

  1. Kayla says:

    I found your blog today and I understand! It is only December 2nd and I’m already a basket case, lonely ups wife. Other people don’t know how lucky they are to have flexibility and time to spend with their spouses during the holidays. We don’t have many family Christmas traditions because we hardly are together as a whole family during christmas. My friends and neighbors have been so kind! They always tell me “I’m trying to get my shopping done early so ups drivers don’t have to work so late around Christmas.” On the plus side (not sure if this is just our center or not) they’re getting the day after Christmas off!

  2. Sarah says:

    I almost cried when I found this blog because I finally realize that I am not alone in this. My husband was thrown into one of the overnight sup jobs right before peak and with the 6 day work week, that means he’s actually working 7 days a week because he gets home on Saturday mornings at 11am after being at work for over 15 hours. He does his best to spend an hour or two with us that day but he spends most of Saturday sleeping and he’s back at it on Sunday night at 7pm. I resent the time he’s away from us and I resent the company for having no concept of work-life balance, but I pull it together and make whatever Christmas traditions and special moments for our girls, even if it means I am alone most of the time.

    • Kelli says:

      Oh man I’m sorry to hear of that awful schedule! But I am so glad you have found this blog! I created it for you guys because a while back I too was looking online for some kind of encouragement, someone who might understand what was going on inside my mind and heart, who knew this life and how hard it is! Be encouraged, hang in there and keep your head up!! Sounds like you have a great man who makes the most of the time he does have with you. It helps me get through this time to think on that. I have a good man. He’s doing this for us. He’ll be home as soon as he can. He loves me, and as soon as peak is over it will resume a somewhat normal schedule. I agree, I also share that same resentment toward the company about work, life, balance. There is none! My husband has also been working six days a week and his phone rings non stop. But yesterday our manager sent him home early!! Praising God for these little glimpses of His mercy and provision for our lives. Be blessed, Sarah!

  3. Maren Sherrell says:

    I just found your blog today and I’m so thankful I did! I’m married to a long-time UPSer. We’ve been married 13 years and he’s worked at UPS 12 of those years. He started off working the preload and was then lucky enough to get a driving position. He was a package handler for 10 years total and for the last 2 years, he has been an on-road supervisor. We have 3 children, ages 11, 9, and 7. I am able to stay home with them and so grateful for that. But I long for any semblance of a “normal” family life. I am doing 95% of raising our kids, alone. It’s exhausting, physically and emotionally. His hours are long and grueling, and there will be entire weeks where he will not see the kids. He leaves before they get up and comes home after they’re in bed. And he had been working a few Saturdays too! I try to stay positive, but some days I’m just simply overwhelmed. I’m so glad I’m not the only one feeling this way. I look forward to reading your blog!

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