What’s your image?

So, I’ve got myself thinking.  Thinking about the image we portray to others.  I know I complain a lot and I say I’m alone a lot and life is tough raising four kids with little or no help.  But the truth is that everyone on this earth has something difficult they are dealing with.  Life is not easy.  We all have our struggles out there.  UPS wife or not.  So instead of feeling “entitled” to complain and that we have it just a bit harder (I know it really is ladies) I think we do need to be careful.  Careful of the thoughts we allow to convince ourselves how hard this is.  (I’m sitting here trying to type this with a fidgety baby on my lap who is actually quite ready for a nap).  I suppose the point I’m trying to get across is to help anyone and everyone you know who is struggling.  Hey friend, I know you see other families having dinner together and maybe you’re jealous.  Husbands who can help moms out by taking the kids for a time, but you’re still at home with yours and no one there to help.  But just keep in mind that there may be silent struggles those families are enduring that we don’t know about.  Be respectful as you wish others were of your struggles.  And that’s why I’m here.  I do know what you’re going through.  I’m in it with you.  Come here and vent.  I will try my best to point you in the direction of the positive and I hope you can do the same for me.

Happy weekends ladies!  Hope everyone is getting some quality  husband time and family time!

Leave a comment and tell me what you guys are up to!  How was your week?  Did you get through it ok?  I want to hear!

Kelli

 

2 comments

  1. Monica says:

    Hi Kelli,
    I am newly engaged to a UPS driver, with 2 kids, ages 12 and 14 of whom we have shared custody. My children are grown, the youngest is 20. My career is just ramping up and I work 40 miles from home with a 45 minute commute. I work normal working hours, though and keep the home fires burning this time of year.

    The issue for me isn’t the schedule, it’s the separation from my fiancé. We are very close and I am used to getting lots of attention from him. Maybe this is because we are still so new, and it will wane, but this is the first peak that I have felt the significant brunt of lonliness.

    He probably feels it is safe to just go to work and work all day without a text to me, asking how my day’s going or just simply an “I miss you” or “I love you”. When I tell him I have noticed the difference, he just says, nothing has changed for him, it’s just peak and we are solid. I shouldn’t worry, he says.

    So, I am trying not to think about it. I do feel less connected to him and am trying desperately not to complain to him as he is doing the best he can. We try to reconnect on the weekends, but he feels there is so much for him to catch up on with housework, time with the kids, etc. there is nothing left for us.

    Any advice or encouragement you can give would be appreciated as I enter this time of life. I love him, or I wouldn’t miss him so much.

    Thanks!
    Monica

    • Kelli says:

      Hi Monica!

      I’m so glad you have found this blog! I am a stay at home mom and am blessed that my UPSer doesn’t ask me to work. I still recognize however that although I am at home and it is lonely, that working women have it a bit harder! You are pulling double duty at work and at home and I commend you for that! I know exactly how you feel being “separated” from him. I’m sure your commute and work schedule may add to the fact that you two are like ships passing in the night. Peak season is by far the worst time of year. We been with UPS now for almost 10 years and I can’t really say that it gets easier for me. Every year I know it will be crazy, but when it finally comes and he starts working those peak crazy hours somehow I always find myself shocked by it all! Our center has them working six days a week now. Today is Sunday and this is the only “family” day we’ve had all week. I’d say what has helped me is staying busy, finding things to do that I enjoy that pass the time he is away, sending him “I love you texts” and when it does get hard and I feel alone and lonely and like I’m holding all the work in my hands here at home I try to remember this is a phase and come mid January things should settle into a “normal” (does UPS have a normal?) routine. Ask him to send you little love texts when he IS able. Tell him its just something you need to hear from him during this time. That it will help you cope. When you do get time together try not to think of all the time you don’t have…just focus on the here and now. Love to you and thanks so much for your comment! I hope you will do so more frequently!

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